College Application process stress

I have heard from many seniors that they are experiencing a high level of stress regarding filing their college applications. I agree - I am stressed as well, because it is an important process. There are some things we can do to make it less stressful.

1. Do not procrastinate. Putting things off will only make it worse. Look at your calendar and determine all of your deadlines now so that you do not "freak out" in a few months when they near.

2. Break down your requirements into smaller pieces. While you have that calendar in front of you, break down all of your requirements into small chunks and plan for mini-deadlines. As you complete each small section, you will feel better about the end goal.

3. Ask for recommendations now. Do not wait until 2 weeks before your application deadline. This way teachers have some notice and can turn in the letters earlier. And you don't have to worry if they have completed their part of the process.

4. Tell your counselor where you plan to apply. We can keep track of the schools and know when to ask you for information, applications, etc. It is a good idea to give us our paperwork (counselor recommendation, form, or secondary school form) now so we know what to expect in advance.

5. Involve your parents. Tell them your plans. Ask them for help when needed. If you feel they are pressuring you too much, tell them this. This is a great time for you to demonstrate responsibility and learn to do things for yourself. When you are away at college, you will not have anyone to help you or be your advocate. Learn how to do this now while you can ask for help.

6. Take care of yourself. Do not stop exercising, spending time with friends, etc. You may have to manage your time differently, but it is important to maintain your needs to stay healthy - physically and mentally.

7. Try not to buy into the hype. You will see and hear information on TV, MySpace, Facebook, etc. about the application process. Before you jump to conclusions, evaluate the source. Do not let someone else's perspective on the application process stress you out. There is an entire industry that has become very profitable because of the hype. Do not let it impact you. Yes, this is easier said than done. If you need help, do not be afraid to ask your counselor.

If you would like more information, there is a wonderful organization called the Education Conservancy. They are non-profit and are working to support students and families during the already stressful time. They work to help you (and me) and keep the focus within reason. Check them out at http://www.educationconservancy.org .